A simple seeker was meditating on the concept of resisting what seemed to be.
“Why?”
“To protect myself from attachment.”
“How?”
‘By accepting that any pleasure or possession is no more than a temporary experience.”
“Some might cling all the more, to enjoy what they have while they can.”
“So, acceeptance is not enough?”
“Enough what?”
“We need more than awareness?”
“To what?”
“To resolve the problem.”
“What problem?”
“The problem of how to let go.”
“Of what?”
“Of whatever seems to need to be let go of.”
“A two-way street?”
“Yes, and yet more.”
“Yes, a pressure gradient.”
“Please explain.”‘
“Whatever or whomever we cling to is also clinging to us.”
“How?”
“Everything and everyone is energy in relationship with everything and everyone else.”
“So, it’s the relationship and not the temporary forms that need to be released from each other?”
“No.”
“Then what?”
“Everything and everyone relates to everything and everyone else.”
“Then how to let go of a relationship?”
“We can’t.”
“What can we do?”
“We can, with practice, learn to accept the existence of relationship and its power, and its immunity to our will, individual and collective.”
“To focus on the relationship and not on the why or what?”
“Yes.”
“And then what?”
“To meditate, from as detached a perspective as we can, while remaining calm and non-judgmental of ourselves and/or of whatever relationship we wish to understand.”
“Can we learn to understand the why and how of relationships?”
“Yes.”
“And then they dissolve?”
“No.”
“What does happen as a result of our understanding?”
“Acceptance.”
“And then?”
“Tensions relax.”
“Without detachment?”
“Detachment from what?”
“From whomever or whatever we were attached to.”
“We never were attached to anything or anyone.”
“Other than relationship itself?”
“Yes.”
“How are we attached to relationship?”
“We are relationship.”
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A simple seeker’s note to herself – Lesson 26
We can’t understand a relationship until we accept it?
“Yes.”
“What if we don’t want to accept it?”
“It doesn’t go away.”
“So, if we accept it, then we can understand it?”
“Not necessarily.”
“How to learn to understand why it’s in our life?”
“Meditate on possible reasons why it exists in our life, and what seems to weaken or strengthen its power over us.”
“Can relationships have power over us?”
“Yes.”
“How do they gain power over us?”
“We give it to them, or we do not.”
“How to regain power that we have given away?”
“Learn to relax about the situation, and then accept personal responsibility.”
“What happens then?”
“We become detached from its hold on us.”
“We stop resisting?
“Yes.”
“And then?”
“Tensions relax and we learn to be aa a witness, and not as a victim.”
“Are personal relationships necessary?”
“Personal relationships are necessary until we learn that relationship is all-inclusive.”
“So, personal relationships help us to learn about a more inclusive relationship?”
“Yes. It’s a necessary beginning to developing a sense of unconditional love.”
“And personal relationships are necessarily conditional?”
“Yes.”
“Is that also a Universal Law?”
“Yes.”
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